I like to call myself a metaphorical cliff jumper. I’m good at making change, and I have been ever since I was a little girl in Jersey, constantly rearranging my bedroom furniture in the wee hours of the night.
My desire and ability to take leaps of faith continued into my early adult years, when I moved across the country after college even though everyone else I knew stayed close to home.
Throughout my twenties I ended relationship after relationship when my gut told me it just wasn't right. I bought a house at 24, and sold it at 28 to go travel through Europe. I quit my job, left everything I knew, and set off into the unknown, without really considering if I was the “type of person” to do that sort of thing. I just did it.
I ended up living in Spain for a short while, and began pursuing an entirely new career path- one that seemed impossible, irresponsible, full of twists and turns and far less certainty than my already-established career in environmental sustainability. Determined to craft the life that I wanted for myself, I stayed true to myself and continued to take risks, to start before I’m ready, to believe that I am whatever kind of person I want to be.
My decisions have always been well-considered, yet swift and definitive. I remember my Mom explaining to a disappointed ex-boyfriend that once my mind was made up, it was over.
My experience and excitement around making change has helped me motivate folks to leave unfulfilling relationships (for a while earning me the nickname “the breakup coach,” before we knew coaching was a thing), quit their boring jobs, start their exciting projects, and book their dream vacations.
But there was also a time I didn’t know what I wanted. I felt buried under the expectations and conditioning of the society we live in, and couldn’t see the path clearly laid out in front of me. I learned to take the step anyway; I learned to get quiet, to take on some simple practices and find myself again.
I learned to figure it out as I went, and perhaps more importantly- to trust in myself that I always would.
My training in mindfulness and habit change is what makes it possible to take that next small step. As a concrete thinker, I like to have a map; a plan. Sometimes things seem impossible because we’re looking at the whole picture and trying to jump ahead to the end goal. I help my clients break things down into more digestible steps, to move a little bit slower than we want to, but make change that lasts longer than your New Year’s resolution. Along the way we run into roadblocks, the mindset and limiting beliefs and perhaps even trauma from past experience that has you thinking you can’t.
But, you can. And I want to help.